Rediscovering Lost Parts of Yourself: Healing Through Transitions, Closure, and New Beginnings

Have you ever noticed that when life changes, parts of you quietly disappear too? It happens in the messy middle of transitions—when doors close, identities shift, and you’re left rebuilding. While we often talk about grief, resilience, and fresh starts, no one really prepares us for the hidden losses—the hobbies, passions, and pieces of self that fade into the background. Yet, those lost parts can also become the keys to healing and joy when we allow them back in.

I’ve lived through my share of transitions—leaving a religious cult, walking away from unhealthy relationships, and even separating myself from family members who couldn’t understand my need for healthy boundaries and peace.

On the other side of it all, I can honestly say it gave me strength beyond anything I thought possible. It gave me compassion, empathy, and a listening ear for the clients who weep at the loss of destructive relationships—and then celebrate their joy at new beginnings. It’s all part of the cycle: loss, grief, rediscovery, and rebirth.

Losing—and Finding—Your Voice Again

In the busyness of building a new life, we don’t always realize what pieces of us fall away. Sometimes it’s the creative side, sometimes it’s the simple joys.

For me, it was singing. When I left the cult, I left behind a world where singing was as natural as breathing. But as I shut the door to that life, my voice shut too—literally. I stopped singing. Whenever I tried, I was overwhelmed with sadness and grief. My voice simply wouldn’t come out.

I knew I couldn’t let that part of me vanish. So, I sought out a singing coach in Toronto—Art Nefsky at Showoffs Studio. With patience, humor, and encouragement, he helped me slowly uncover the voice that had been buried behind the pain. I’ll forever be grateful for the laughter through tears, and the joy of belting out a song again.

Reclaiming Joy in Everyday Rituals

What parts of you have you left behind because they remind you of a life that no longer fits? Dust them off. If they brought you joy once, they can again.

Moving to Medellín has given me a new beginning in many ways. Has it been easy? No. Has it been worth it? Absolutely. One thing I’ve come to appreciate is how distance and time reveal the truth of relationships. The ones built on convenience fade away, while the ones rooted in love and truth only grow stronger. And in their place, new connections blossom—a silver lining to every ending.

Just the other day, I found myself baking banana bread. For years, I avoided the kitchen after a painful relationship ended. I used to bake constantly—jar preserves, whip up desserts, make all sorts of cozy creations. But when that chapter closed, so did my connection to baking.

As bananas ripened on my counter, I felt a nudge to reclaim that old joy. I bought pans, a mixer, and ingredients—and soon my home was filled with the smell of warm banana bread. The delight I felt buttering the pan, mixing the batter, and sliding it into the oven was pure magic. It was familiar, heartwarming, and entirely for me. A gift to myself.

The Invitation: Revisit What You Miss

Please, revisit those parts of you you’ve set aside. If you feel nostalgic for them, it’s because they’re still alive within you, waiting to be reborn.

Put on those familiar songs you used to love—for me, it’s music by Orchestral Manoeuvres in the Dark or INXS—and dance like you once did. Sing, paint, write, bake, garden, or play. Do it for no other reason than it awakens the essence of who you are.

Because despite endings, transitions, and new beginnings—your essence never disappears. It’s still there, waiting for you to remember.

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